so long since i last blogged/so much to tell.
my boyfriend/"friend boy"/guy-i'm-sleeping-with/etc. called me dumbass last week, as in i made some comment and he responded "no, dumbass."
this did not go over well, to say the least. to make matters worse, BF did not seem to understand why i was so upset. he insisted that he had called me that before with no reaction out of me, i insisted that i must have misheard him before because i felt certain i would have reacted, and regardless, i did not want to be called that in the future. at the end, we sort of agreed to disagree. well, he agreed not to call me that, but disagreed as to what he perceived as my overreaction. i agreed to continue seeing him, although i disagreed with his perception that calling me dumbass was not a big deal.
have i mentioned before that english is not his first language? because it is relevant to this story.
he was speaking with a fully bilingual friend a few days ago, and called her dumbass as well. remembering my reaction, he asked her about the term and discovered that he had been mis-translating a spanish word. apparently, she informed him that whatever the spanish word in question was (i can't recall), the proper english translation was "silly" rather than "dumbass." we were both much relieved to learn our difference of opinion was merely semantic. i don't at all mind being called silly.
the whole thing reminds me of that still-embarassing memory of telling a deaf man in broken sign language that he and i should marry, when i meant to say we should be friends.
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